Almost everyone can benefit from some type of social skills training. Consider classes, therapy, and books that can help you:
Overcome social fears or phobias
Become more assertive
Develop higher self-esteem
Initiate and sustain conversations
Deepen relationships through self-disclosure and empathy
Get Involved in Groups, Clubs, and Classes
Getting involved in activities in your community is a great way to meet people. Here are some ideas:
Local night schools, colleges, and universities may offer a variety of enrichment classes. You can learn a new skill, make new friends, and share your interests with others.
Join a church or spiritual group. These can be great places to meet others. Many people also find that they feel less lonely and more connected when they develop their spiritual interests.
Actively participate in a group. Speak up, take a key position, or volunteer to head up special events.
Get to Know Your Neighbors and Your Local Community
The following are some ideas to help you get to know people in your neighborhood and community.
Go for walks in your neighborhood. Say hello to neighbors and introduce yourself.
Shop regularly at neighborhood stores and shops.
Become a regular at a local park, beach, coffeehouse, museum, or sporting event.
Consider hosting a block party. Send invitations to your neighbors.
Start a community improvement project or run for office.
Join a local health club or sports team.
Take Some Risks
By risking a little, you can gain a lot. Here are some tips to help you:
Talk to other people first and don’t let fear of rejection stop you. Look for something to start a conversation. Let your personality show.
Don’t be afraid to respond to strangers who initiate conversation, as long as they don’t seem overly aggressive or dangerous.
Your friends don’t have to be just like you. Consider friends of both sexes. Open yourself up to people from various age groups and cultures.
Join or Start a Support Group
Support groups are for people who share a common problem. Most communities have support groups concerning issues such as divorce, bereavement, single parenting,
cancer, and caregiving. Consider forming your own group. You can find resources at your local library or online.
Volunteers are needed almost everywhere—hospitals, nursing homes, charities, churches, and so on. Contribute your talents to a cause that makes you happy. Create your own opportunity.
Get a Roommate or Two
A compatible roommate can ease some of the loneliness, as well as share some expenses. Interview potential roommates carefully. If you’re looking for a place to live, pay attention to signs of friendly housing.
After relationships develop, they must be maintained—something that takes time and effort. Here are some tips:
Keep in touch on a regular basis—call, write, or get together.
Work together on a project or hobby.
Remember that different people are comfortable with different levels of intimacy. Gauge the level of intimacy that works for both parties.
Share feelings, memories, dreams, disappointments, experiences, and humor.
Listen and allow the other person to share.
Give the relationship time to grow.
Keep working on developing the relationship, even if it’s uncomfortable at times.
Get a Pet
Many people find that a pet helps to fulfill their needs for warmth, affection, and companionship.
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