Chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS) and fibromyalgia (FMS) are debilitating chronic illnesses that can strike people of both sexes and all age groups. Partners, friends, and relatives of people with CFS or FMS may feel confused and helpless, not knowing what to say or how to offer support.
Perhaps chronic fatigue syndrome or fibromyalgia has stricken your spouse, your child, your sibling, or a good friend. Whatever the case, it’s difficult for you to see a loved one in such pain. The illness presents new challenges to your relationship as well. It may also worsen any existing relationship problems.
You want to be positive and helpful, but you don’t know what to do or say. Maybe you’ve tried to be supportive and find that your loved one reacts in frustration. What should you do?
These tips from the Chronic Fatigue and Immune System Dysfunction Syndrome Association of America may help.
Most people know very little, if anything, about CFS and FMS. Both conditions involve much more than “a little fatigue” or “a few aches and pains.” If you have a friend or loved one with one of these conditions, you should learn as much as possible. The more you understand, the better you will be able to offer support.
Sometimes people think that individuals with CFS or FMS are lazy, exaggerating their symptoms, or suffering from a psychiatric condition. They may mistakenly believe that their loved one just needs to push herself a little harder. People with CFS or FMS often feel invalidated when they hear:
People with CFS or FMS often face a number of challenges, including:
Many people use denial to deal with a loved one’s chronic illness. Rather than listening, believing, and showing compassion for what the person is going through, they discuss the facts and minimize the severity of the situation. When you fully acknowledge your loved one’s situation, you are letting her know that you truly care, love, and support her. The following tips can help:
Chronic illness presents many relationship challenges at a time when comfort and social support are of utmost importance. Here are some ways you can help:
CFS in particular, is a very unpredictable illness. Symptoms can change, so your loved one may not be able to predict how she will feel hours or even minutes ahead of an event. Try to be sensitive to this and expect the following situations:
CFS and FMS are difficult illnesses—not just for the sufferer, but for those who care. It’s normal to feel disappointed, impatient, guilty, frustrated, helpless, and cheated. It’s important that you take adequate care of yourself so that you can provide support.
Talk with your loved one about how the illness affects your relationship. Ask how you can help each other. Keep in mind that support from family and friends is essential to the well-being of people with CFS and FMS.
Chronic Fatigue and Immune Dysfunction Syndrome Association of America
National Fibromyalgia Association
Fibromyalgia Information and Local Support
Women's Health Matters
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